hey, detox to revitalize u

i have a hectic schedule to keep myself chaotic…beside my 8~6 daily work walking around in uniform and heels, gossiping for self confidence..hehehhe, reading (which more on horoscope and angelina jolie) etc… i balance my life with…..

Monday: 2 hours Yoga class
Tuesday: 2 hours Body Balance class
Wednesday: 1 hour horse riding
Thursday: TV day, laundry
Friday: Meeting with friends
Saturday: 8~ 11 horses riding or 1 hour Pilates
Sunday: 1 hour horse riding or sleep all day! ,laundry

It looks like a very healthy life style..but i wreck it with hearing evil…swearing…Marlboro Light…Nescafe 3in1 Original…mamak’s teh tarik…sirap bandung johor…Maggi Asam Laksa…Mee Goreng Sedap..McD Fillet-O-Fish..Wendy’s Shrimp burger…nasik lemak tiga segi…nasik daun pisang…goreng pisang…blab la blab la bla… =”( it will make me bad for myself if i list it alllll….anyway, I think I need something to boost up my mind..body and soul…i am FADING…hik hik hik…mmm…I think DETOXing is the right thing to start with..let me share with you what I found in http://health.yahoo.com… Very interesting and informative…towards a healthy happy life!! =”)

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At the arrival of spring it is a natural instinct to cast off the winter blues and feel renewed. It is also a great time to eliminate the toxins that have been burdening your system, leaving you sluggish and fatigued. Make a clean sweep with the 5-step detox listed below!
Why you need to spring clean your body Your body is naturally equipped with a self-cleaning process. But too much sugar, caffeine, processed foods, stress, and too little exercise can slow the body’s natural detox function to a slow pace. And then your body can’t clean itself when it is put up against the increasing number of harmful and toxic substances in the environment.
Toxins come in many forms: pesticides in produce, formaldehyde in carpets and cosmetics, PCBs from plastic containers, dioxins from bleached paper products, and more. Your body will process and eliminate some of the hordes of chemicals that enter, but overflow gets stored in the liver, lungs, kidneys, fat cells, intestines, blood stream, and skin—which can result in chronic illnesses down the road. When you undergo a detox, you get these toxins out of your system.
How do you know if you need a detox? You know you’re suffering from toxic overload if you are experiencing fatigue, memory decline, difficulty focusing, allergies and infections, irritability, anxiety and depression, difficulty with weight gain and weight loss, muscle and joint pain or weakness, skin rashes and outbreaks, recurrent yeast and fungal infections, constipation, diarrhea, abdominal bloating, and indigestion. Most people report vast improvement in their symptoms after a detox. At first, you may feel a little fuzzy because of the toxins being released. However, when you stick with it, you will begin to feel more alert, energized, and full of vitality. At-Home Detox Start small! Begin with a one-day program and gradually increase to one week or more. Here are 5 steps to a daily detox that will gently cleanse your body:

1. Start the Detox Day Right - First thing in the morning, drink one lemon squeezed in 12 ounces of warm filtered water. Lemon activates your liver to release toxins and helps to cleanse and move the roughage that stays behind in your intestines. • Take acidophilus or a probiotic supplement. Acidophilus is one of the many “good” bacteria and yeasts known as the probiotics. Probiotics balance our intestinal functions, helping to break down food and control the “bad” bacteria that is also in your system—all of which optimizes the detoxification process. Always take probiotics on an empty stomach.
2. Your Detox Meals – These meals are designed to jump-start your body into becoming healthier. • Breakfast: Eat oat bran cereal, brown rice, or any other whole grain cereal as long as it is unbleached and does not contain any added sugar or chemicals. Pair with unflavored soy milk. • Lunch or Dinner: Eat any combination of beans, brown rice, oat bran, vegetables, and organic chicken, turkey, or soy-products. When you eat, notice how your food affects you. You should feel satisfied and energized. If you feel tired and sluggish, try eating smaller meals so that you don’t overwhelm your digestion and interfere with the detoxification process.
3. Eat Green to Spring into Health - The green pigment in plants, chlorophyll, is structurally similar to the hemoglobin in the human body—the iron-containing element in blood. It increases red blood cell production and improves oxygenation, detoxification, and circulation. Be sure to eat several servings of fresh green vegetables every day during your detox. Try this super-cleansing broth and juice as a quick way to up your veggie intake. Detox Broth: Add as many of these ingredients as you can into a large pot of filtered water: collards, Swiss chard, kale, mustard greens, cabbage, dandelion, Brussels sprouts, daikon radish, watercress, seaweed, shitake mushrooms, cilantro, garlic, leeks, fresh fennel, anise, fresh ginger, and turmeric. Boil until all ingredients are soft. You can make in a large batch and refrigerate for up to three days. Detox Juice: Juice the following together: Aloe vera juice (which can be found in most health food stores), apples, asparagus, beets (including greens), cabbage, carrot and carrot greens, celery, cucumbers, and parsley. You can also purchase vegetable juice from the store, but be sure that it has no added salt or chemicals.
4. Supplement Your Detox – Take a daily supplement of 1 tablespoon of flax seed oil, walnut oil, or deep-sea fish oil. • Green Tea is a strong antioxidant, and a great beverage choice for your detox. Be sure to drink decaffeinated green tea. • Dandelion and Milk Thistle both protect and restore the liver. According to Chinese medicine, the liver is most active in the detoxification process during spring. • Ginger is a bowel and kidney cleanser. Make yourself tea from fresh ginger root during your detox. 
5. Take an Invigorating Herbal Soak –  Soak for 20 minutes in a revitalizing herbal bath. Help draw out toxins by infusing your bath water with eucalyptus, wintergreen, peppermint, fennel, cinnamon, and epsom salts. Spring may be the best time to cleanse your body, but you don’t have to wait until spring to start. Detoxification and cleansing is a healthy maintenance program for all seasons.

May you stay healthy, live long, and live happy! -Dr. Mao > Thanks Dr.Mao =”)

why i prefer to be…

geee…accidentally got this while surfing on the net…mmmm…i’ll save my comment for now =”)

Why I prefer to be a mistress… rather than a wife:

1. I’d rather have my freedom… than have a housekeeper’s life.

2. She can have the babies (the smell and the noise!), I have the men after a night out with the boys.

3. I don’t mind when he leaves in the middle of the night. She can have the snoring, the tossing, the turning (the morning breath). I need my beauty sleep.

4. She can have the car pool, the shoppin’. I prefer candlelight and nookie.

5. She can have the weekends with the in-laws, I’ll shop with my friends. Really, I’d rather!

6. I like flying around the world (to play around the world) on a G5, of course.

7. I like my name, my independence, my prince, my pop star, my politician . . .

8. She can play blind man’s bluff, I’ll play blind man’s muff. (Not to mention hide and go peek).

9. She has to beg for an allowance. I’m not the one doing the begging.

I’m crazy about you baby, but please don’t ever turn up with your suitcase at my door. I’d rather stay a mistress than become a wife.

Food Fight

Question: We can never agree on what to eat and it causes regular conflict. Can this be resolved? [ME: it happens everyday..…hehehe]

 

Answer: One of the biggest challenges every couple faces is trying to work as one when, in fact, they are two different people with various needs and wants. Arguing about what to eat is a common scenario. [ME: ooooo..common….ok la…] So what do you do when your man wants a steak and you want salad? [ME: I’ll certainly agree on steak!!  Forget the salad … ;p]

 

Here are several suggestions for you to digest:

·              If your partner is really drooling for a steak and you have no particular preference, then let them have their rib eye. Of course, if you can’t stand meat, make sure the restaurant offers something that appeal to you, too.

·              On the other hand, if all week long you’ve been fantasizing about your favorite ethnic restaurant and your partner’s needs aren’t that important, hold to your guns. [ME: the only thing I can’t do…]

·              Forget both ideas and pick a third option that suits both of you. [ME: we will end up at the usual mamak…hehhe..padan muka dua2..mamak jugak untung]

·              Since you’re going to have different tastes, always remember to have varied foods available at home. [ME: I got to have 2 different milk…HL low fat & Good Day full cream…Alpen’s Original Muesli…Cornflakes ..NOT Frostie’s ….bla blabla… ;p ]

 

Of course, there will be times when each of you feels you have an irresistible urge that must be fulfilled. In this scenario, a compromise is required, and there are numerous ways to reach one:

• Choose a restaurant that offers both types of cuisine. [ME: Pappa Rich?..Station 1?…Soul Out?…Bibi Wok?…Mamak la senang :p ]
• Splurge and go out two nights that week.
• Stay at home and bring in the food you each desire. [ME: Tapau siap2..tak payah tanya..easier & it works…hehehe]
• Stay at home and prepare the food that you each favor. [ME: i’ve been living with microwave only ..time for real fire!! Ma, I need stove.. ]

Remember, even if you want to scoop up some Kashmir curry while your partner is happy slapping the bottom of a ketchup bottle, variety is the spice of life — learn to respect and enjoy your differences! And… bon appetit!

 

**Taken From: ~ http://dating/personal/yahoo.com

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Food Fight Common Conversation 1

SHE: Sayang…mlm ni nak makan apa?

HE: Apa2 pun ok…

SHE: I dun want that answer..nak makan apeeee….

HE: Roti canai kari ikan kat mamak atas..

SHE: Tu je?? Alahhhhh…

HE: What u fancy then?

SHE: mmmm….i tak tau nak makan apa…I tanye u dulu…u yg kena decide…

HE: Nasik Daun Pisang, PJ?

SHE: dah malam…nanti gumukkk..

HE: mmm…Bumbu Bali?

SHE: tanakkk smua2 pun nasikk je

HE: Grill Fish, Asia Café?

SHE: we had it last week…takmooo

HE: I gave so much choices…smua2 pun tanak…u suruh I decide pastu smua pun tanak…dahhh..u plak..

SHE: jgn la marah…I confuse nak makan apa..mmmm…jom pegi Soul Out?

HE: OK…

 

On the way….

SHE: Sayang..nape lalu sini?

HE: Saje..

SHE: Ni dah dekat Kari Kepala Ikan Uptown..jom nak?

HE: kan..ok jugak…lagi dekat…mmg I terase nak mkn kari kepala ikan..

SHE: nape tak ckp..

HE: ye la..kang I ckp..u tanakk…

 

……Dan bersambung2~ lagi hehehhehe…..nak makan pun susahhh…

 

Food Fight Common Conversation 1

Siang hari

HE: Sayang, I nak makan lamb shank la tonite…

SHE: OK…

Malam hari

HE: Sakit kepala la…nak restkan mata jap..

SHE: (berkata2 dalam hati)…start dahhh….penat la..tido jap la…

1 jam kemudian

HE: eeehhh…u dah makan..?

SHE: sape suwoh u tido..i makan la toast .. ;p

HE: la…kan I nak rest mata kejap je…jom la kuar..

SHE: tanakk…I teman bleh la..

HE: tanak ..tak bess…

SHE: tanak sudah…

HE: jom aa..jom aaaa..pegi mamak nak?

SHE: (berkata dalam hati)…mmmm..teh tarik bess ni…

OK…jom cepat…lamb shank kununnn….

 

 well, the article said its a common scenario..so, its ok to have the food fight…at least u know u are having a normal relation…heheh..think on the positive side, it did spice up ur life…gaduh2 over stupid lil things…funi..sometimes, gals like to manja2 a bit..sehari dah stress kat keje, kena ikutt je ckp boss…bile lagi nak bossy..kan kan kannn as long as both of u not starting to throw food at each other, take it as an amusing ngada2 time of the day… =”)

 

P/S: It’s Valentine’s Day tomorrow!!! Plan ahead guys…have sumthing special…there’s lots of Valentine’s special dinner promotion around town =”) HAPPY V DAY,EVERIBODI~

Everything You Know About Affairs Is Wrong

“Once a cheater, always a cheater.”

“People cheat when they’re unhappy at home.”

“If your mate cheats, you’ll know.”

We’ve all heard these bits of conventional wisdom; they’re comforting, in a strange way. [ME: Cheating is no.1 killer ..after cancer??..hehe..tambah2 plak..] But they’re all wrong, say the experts who study infidelity. What’s worse, believing these myths can do a lot of harm, because it gets in the way of your preventing, spotting, and recovering from infidelity. (Yes, recovering — contrary to popular belief, an affair doesn’t have to destroy a relationship.) We’ve unraveled the latest research so you can protect your relationship with the facts. [ME: True true...an affair doesnt mean it s the end of the world!! .. maybe a new beginning =")]

Myth #1: There’s a “cheater” profile.

The reality: With the right trigger circumstances, anyone is susceptible to cheating. “There are as many different profiles as there are people who have affairs,” says Douglas Snyder, Ph.D., a couples therapist and a professor of psychology at Texas A and M University. Yet the myth persists that there’s a recognizable “type” of person who’s unfaithful. That’s why it took Linda Mitchell, 43, a personal trainer in Monroe, OH, by such surprise when she found out her first mate was having an affair. “He never did anything to lead me to think he would cheat,” she says. “He’d bring me flowers, tell me how beautiful I was and what a great partner I was.”

While some people are chronic philanderers, it’s more common to unintentionally wind up in an affair. “People who have accidental affairs have no thoughts of being unfaithful,” says Snyder. “It’s not even consistent with their values system, but the opportunity presents itself.” Maybe a coworker hits on you during a business trip [ME: Owh... ;( ..most affairs happen at work place ey... i would suggest we have AMO & AFO - 'All Male Office' & 'All Female Office'..instead of Co-off: co-office..heheh...macam Co-ed: co-education ;p ] when you’re stressed, or your cute handyman compliments you when you’re getting over a fight with your mate.

“Here’s the best way to prevent affairs: Rather than saying, ‘We will never have one,’ instead think of the kind of person, situation and mood that would make you vulnerable,” says Barry McCarthy, Ph.D., a marital therapist ” Maybe you’re so nurturing that you’d be vulnerable helping a neighbor whose wife just died, while your fun-loving sister would be susceptible during a trip to Las Vegas.” It may feel contrived or scary, but having this tough conversation with your partner can help you both recognize chancy situations and be on guard. [ME: Do not put the blame on others!! verry important... ]

You can also stay in safe territory with friends of the opposite sex by not confiding personal things, like airing complaints about your mate, and not keeping anything about those friendships secret. “You know you’ve crossed a line if you don’t want your mate to know about whatever you’re talking about with this person,” says Tina Pittman Wagers, Psy.D., a clinical psychologist and instructor at the University of Colorado at Boulder. “If it starts feeling like that, then you need to pull back and reestablish closeness with your mate.” [ME: errr...i think its not a good idea of having  friends of the opposite sex as ur best friend...boleh la, but...NOT a good idea..]

Myth #2: It’s men who cheat.

The reality: While baby-boomer men do cheat more, [ME: kenape kenape kenape?? (sambil menarik2 rambut tanda tidak paham..)] women in their 20s and 30s have affairs just as frequently as men their age, according to new research. One reason: More women are working. When you have a job, you’ve got more financial freedom, which could make you more comfortable taking a gamble with your relationship. You also have opportunity; around 46 percent of women and 62 percent of men who have affairs cheat with someone from work. [ME: aaaaaa...equality... ]

Myth #3: Long-term boredom leads to an affair.

The reality: Michael, 34, a lawyer in Tampa, says his wife started having an affair before the couple’s two-year anniversary. “I never, ever thought that would happen,” says Michael. Yet the so-called honeymoon period is actually a high-risk time for infidelity. “More people have affairs the first two years of marriage than any other time,” says McCarthy. Women may experiment with a comparison affair: Would I be better off with this guy? Did I make a mistake in marrying my spouse? [ME: experiment?? curiosity killed the cat..] Men, on the other hand, are likely to cheat for reasons that have nothing to do with their relationship.  [ME:  ooooo...but, how if the reason is 'just having fun' ? good for the relationship la..tapi, pity the gals they are dating ;p ] Thanks to their upbringing or their circle of friends, they may believe that’s just what guys do.

An early affair may be just a last fling that a couple can work through, but it’s more likely a wake-up call to a person that his or her partner has a fundamentally different model of monogamy, says Wagers. Still, newlywed affairs don’t have to spell doom. If both partners decide that they want to give their union another shot, it’s important to figure out what factors contributed to the affair and whether there’s any hope for changing them. [ME: i think...it worth to try and mend the broken part...it just a test to see how strong ur relationship are..and how u manage to handle it...try to re-fresh the memory of ur akad or wedding vows .."To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, 'till death do us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness. "  sweet... ;")]

Myth #4: A man is driven to infidelity when he’s not happy in his relationship.

The reality: It’s true that the majority of women who’ve had an affair reported being physically and emotionally disengaged from their partners for at least a year before the affair. [ME: ooooo...ok...ada reason la] But more than half of men involved in affairs reported being happy or very happy in their marriages prior to cheating, [ME: more than half??owh!! mmm...just dun listen to their sad stories...maybe they just making it up..isk..isk ..tewuk aaa] according to a survey by the late Shirley Glass, ” Lots of other factors weigh into a guy’s decision to start an affair, including chemistry, opportunity and poor impulse control. “I counseled a couple where the husband’s younger coworker made a pass at him when they were at a conference and he accepted,” says Wagers. “Even though he felt close to his wife and he felt like he had a good marriage, he was excited and flattered that this woman who was 15 years younger found him attractive.”

Many cheaters do blame their actions on a less-than-perfect home life, but researchers say they’re just rewriting history. “Often times these are retrospective reports that are now having to justify how it is that the partner violated vows,” says Snyder. Granted, lots of cheaters are unhappy on some level in their marriages. But so are many men and women who don’t have affairs. “Infidelity isn’t the only road,” says Wagers. “If you’re not satisfied in your marriage, you might also be driven to talk to your partner.” That’s why therapists say it’s so important to stay in touch with each other. For you, that might mean setting aside 20 minutes every night to talk about your day, your differences and your dreams. “It’s the whole idea of staying close to your spouse,” says Wagers. “The more disconnected you get from the relationship, the easier it is to slide down the slippery slope of infidelity.” [ME: GET CONNECTED!! ...]

Myth #5: Adulterers find lasting happiness with their affair partners.

The reality: No matter how blissful they feel, affair pairings rarely get to happily ever after. A whopping 75 percent of affair partners who marry end up divorced.[ME: 75% ?wow!!... Pesanan penaja: DON'T GO FOR IT or U'LL REGRET..] For one thing, the qualities that attract you to an affair partner — like impulsiveness or extravagance — might be the polar opposite of what makes you happy long-term. And during affairs, lovers are under the spell of chemical changes in their bodies that make them feel euphoric — feelings that are exaggerated even more by the secrets they’re keeping. They’re in a type of fantasy world, focusing only on each other and not getting bogged down in day-to-day stuff like bills and child rearing. “Somebody may seem like a soul mate when it’s all fresh and shiny,” says Wagers. “But you can’t assume the new-car smell is going to last 15 years.” [ME: the power of chemistry..horrornye..dun fall for it...it just hormone changes..]

Myth #6: Betrayed partners know on some level when their partners are fooling around.

The reality: In many cases, the betrayed mate is totally in the dark. “A lot of cheating partners are really invested in keeping this secret and are very good at lying,” says Wagers. [ME: ada jugak yg totally bad at lying..] So true, says Dayle DeCillo, 39, a mother of five in Mission Viejo, CA, who had zero suspicion that her husband of 11 years was unfaithful — until she discovered him with another woman. “I was blindsided,” she says. “He was a paramedic and firefighter, and was gone a lot, either ‘working’ or ‘working out.’ I was never concerned he wasn’t where he said he was.”

DeCillo simply made the same assumptions most people do: You assume you’re trustworthy and your mate is, too. The possibility that he could stray isn’t even on your mind, so you don’t get suspicious if he says he has to work late or go on a golf trip with his buddies. Usually it’s not until the affair is out in the open that the betrayed mate can go back and give new meaning to history.

It’s also common after an affair is exposed for the betrayed mate to feel like he or she is facing a new truth: You never can be sure whether your partner will cheat. In reality, it’s a truth that was there all along. [ME: mmmm...trust ur partner? or never trust ur partner? it is u to choose..hehhe]

Five essential tips to prevent infidelity:

1. Be each other’s number one confidant. You shouldn’t be sharing private thoughts with others that you’re not sharing with your mate.

2. Make time to connect on a regular basis. Daily moments of connection help you build a sense of togetherness and shared purpose.

3. Don’t let family time squeeze out just-the-two-of-you time. Relationships that are too child-centered are at high risk for an affair.

4. Recognize when you’re temporarily attracted to someone else. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with your relationship — or that you have to act on it.

5. Surround yourself with people who believe in you and your relationship. If you’re ever tempted and don’t feel like you can tell your mate, you’ll have someone else to confide in who will steer you straight. And if one of you does stray, you’ll have a strong support network to help you put your relationship back together.

 

** Taken from: http://dating.personals.yahoo.com

[ME:  Three rings of marriage are... the engagement ring, the wedding ring, and the suffering .. Mom, u are so cool..u did a good job xxxxx luv ya...]